About three years ago, my wife and I were reminiscing on our last vacation that we took with my mom, Becky. While our travel styles vary greatly, I relish in the rich memories that I’ve been able to make traveling with the woman who gave me life.
We decided that it was time to start planning out next joint vacation, and asked my mom if there was any place that she would like to visit. With lightning speed, without any hesitation, she quipped, “Galapagos Islands.”
Bethany blinked hard at me, silently saying, “WHOA. What was THAT all about??”
I beamed profusely, and shared.
Although my family didn’t take many vacations, when we did , they were pretty memorable. One of the 2 family vacations that shaped my youth was a Disney cruise that my best friend and I convinced our parents to coordinate together. One of the destinations was the Galapagos islands, but rough seas rerouted our cruise, so we never got to stop there. Apparently, Becky never forgot.
Bethany and I were not expecting this lofty trip goal. When we started researching it, we were floored by the egregious price tag! I know that this is a bucket list destination, but… WOW! The remote location makes this a sea-worthy gamble.
Let the Negotiations Begin!
Our past two joint vacations were polar opposites. The first (our hiking adventure where she sacrificed creature comforts) was Mom enduring our normal style of vacay. We hiked 10 miles a day, through rivers, up to scary overlooks, and Mom was a trooper!! The second (us cruising with Mom and her dance group) was us sacrificing our desire for cultural immersion for convenience. We endured the crowds, the touristy ports, and the lack of authentic cultural experiences.
We knew that we could travel together pretty well, and were excited to plan our next one. Once we realized how insanely expensive our hypothetical Galapagos trip might be, however, we pushed that bad boy out a few years. I was 36 when we first starting talking about it, and we quickly decided that this particular trip might make more sense as a landmark year, so we started exploring this for my 40th, which is also my mom’s 70th (thanks for making the math easy for me, Mom!!).
In the meantime, we ended up planning a 3rd joint vacation with Mom. It was… decidedly a compromise. While I’m grateful for the invaluable memories, there were honestly times that my mom was driving me batty. Likewise, she was not as tolerant of the unknowns, or the less than perfect accommodations. I think, much like roommates who have passed the ‘honeymoon’ phase, we became comfortable enough to be ‘honest.’ Honesty is dangerous when in close quarters with family.
When Do We QUIT?!?!
Here’ the deal. Becky has 30 years more of income than me. Ergo, she can afford a much more lavish vacation than us. When we started honing in on vacation options, I thought that we were already sacrificing a lot to afford her more comfort, and then I got a whiplash reality check!
Dudes and dudettes, the Galapagos Islands are CRAZY EXPENSIVE. My wife and I excel at traveling on a dime, and it’s tough here. After my mom’s lackluster experience in Costa Rica, I knew her growing penchant for high-end, all-inclusive packages would be strong.
Here’s the deal. I’m no slack traveler. There’s a reason that I can afford to travel the world with minimal budget. I do my research, I follow trends, I embrace uncertainty, and I am not afraid to gamble. Mi madre, on the other hand, is well-aged enough that she now just wants to pay for the comfort of not making decisions. So, we are at opposite ends of the spectrum. I’d rather sleep in a clean but no frills hotel and spend more on experiences, whereas she would rather know that her home base is luxurious enough that she can relax after a long day of excursions.
When we started this research on the Galapagos islands, I learned about how easy it is to book a last minute cruise (you gotta FILL it, yo!) but the travel agents convinced my mom that it must be booked in advance.
Multiple sources share how much more cost effective it is to stay on the islands and book a 3-4 day cruise or day trips, and yet mom was scared into the believing that this is not possible.
My biggest concern… was food. As sustainability-minded veg-heads, we always research our food options in advance. Islands are typically seafood focused, and therefore more challenging for us. Being on the islands means that we can always walk a little farther to find some food, but being stuck on a boat that has limited options, means that we could end up paying stupid amounts of money for a bucket list trip and end up being ‘Hangry’ for 8 straight days because the only thing we’ve been fed is pineapple and mango.
Ultimately, I deferred to mi madre. This trip was truly her idea, and for her 70th, she shouldn’t have to feel like she missed out on anything. We are planning to book a 7-night cruise that is WAY above our budget, but the price of sharing this experience with Becky is worth so much more! We will have to scrimp and hustle to make some extra income this year (anybody need a custom watercolor portrait?!?), but hopefully our frugal travel mile hobby will enable us to fly to Ecuador for free, so we can relax and enjoy this epic trip!
Stay Tuned!! I can’t wait to share the results of how things go in the Galapagos Islands in May 2020!